Yesterday you should have received your PSIU report. This email is the first of seven mini-lessons that will help you apply the insights from your report. I hope you enjoy them.
You can also log on to My Account to view your report or to get your custom links to send a PSIU assessment to others. When they complete the test, you’ll both receive a copy of their report. OK, here’s the first lesson…
One question I often get asked is a variation on this theme: “OK, I received my report and it shows that I’m a mix of styles. I want to be one way but I’m showing up another way, so what’s my real style?”
The answer is to look at how you respond in times of high stress. I’ll use myself as an example. I came into the world a Big Producer style. In fact, I was born one month premature and just kept charging until I ultimately worked myself into a state of burnout and overwhelm in my early thirties.
When things aren’t working well in our life, this can inspire a quest for answers. In my case, I wanted to develop more inner peace and less constant, self-directed pressure. I didn’t know it at the time but I was seeking to tamp down my Big Producer style and develop a more balanced style.
I spent more than 7 years mostly working full time on myself, trying to develop new ways of thinking, feeling, and interacting with others. It was a hard, insightful, and ultimately priceless journey of self-discovery.
So did I change? In many ways I did. I think you would agree with me that each of us is capable of change if we truly want to and if we have the commitment, patience, resources, and support we need to do it.
But how do you think I still respond when under high stress? That’s right. Despite my intentions, deep self work, and efforts at transformation, if I’m in a stressful situation I will still default to a Big Producer style. I’ll want to rush right through a stressful situation by clamping down and working harder. I’ll also feel impatient. This is true even if the right thing to do is to relax and chill out and let things take their course. Defaulting to a Big Producer response still causes me more problems than it solves.
So how about you? What’s your default under high stress? Do you tend to:
__ Work harder (Producer)
__ Withdraw to analyze (Stabilizer)
__ Mentally spin-out among multiple options (Innovator)
__ Seek a buddy to talk it through (Unifier)
Paying attention to how you and others respond when under stress is a key indicator of your style. The greater the stress, the greater the default response.
To your success,